On more than one occasion, I have heard people explicitly remark that if one is not married (be it a guy or a girl) than they are definitely fair game. Generally, I am under the impression that two people who are interested in each other and eventually find their way to each other, are together for a reason and onlookers should respect that. But, there is also a flip to that, should a third person come along and fancy one of the paired individuals and vice versa, is it even worth carrying on with the relationship?
A friend of a friend of a friend’s friend (pulling your leg), my sister’s friend was having a conversation with my sister about a ‘hot dude’ on campus, and sometime during the conversation it was raised that this ‘hot dude’ has a girlfriend, her response? “Girlfriends are not buildings, they can be removed”. Initially, this is a very funny statement (depending who you ask) and it is somewhat true and well, any unhitched individual is fair game BUT, would you be as graceful and open minded in your thinking if you were the person experiencing the “bf/gf napping”?!
People are generally beings who like to think that they can do what they please at any time and fail to think further (if the same thing was done to me, would I accept it?). If you are content with that being done to you, then by all means do it but who is to judge which two individuals should or should not be together? If you are not married and in a relationship, is your better (or not so better) half fair game?
Phumzile Zulu
